Tuesday, February 14, 2017

Tombstone Tuesday: Brown Plot 1

Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2016, used with permission

Oldest Brown Plot
(Brown Plot 1)

When photographing sections of gravestones, it is easier to do those that have an enclosure like this one. This is a common arrangement of gravestones in New England cemeteries. Instead of placing burials in a neat row, the plot is enclosed with stone pillars and the patriarch of the plot (and his wife or wives) is carved on a monument in the center. This monument with a cross, shows right away that this is a Christian family. 

The vine probably looked nice in the beginning with green ivy but now that is growing out of control and covering the carving on it. Each person buried here had their own headstone. The casket was (probably) placed with the head at he base of the individual headstone and the feet were pointing toward the base of the center monument.

The entrance posts are also carved with the name and the post resemble broken tree trunks symbolizing life cut short.

Tuesday, February 07, 2017

Tombstone Tuesday: Brown, Period.

Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2016, used with permission

Tombstone Tuesday: Brown

For a while, I will be investigating two plots of of gravestones at Elm Grove Cemetery, in Mystic, CT of people with the surname Brown. As I have been looking closely at each headstone and monument, I noticed that the monument maker added a period at the end of the surname as you can see by this cropped photo.

As I am transcribing stones I tend to say them out loud, so this says, "Brown, Period". The punctuation in gravestone work can be significant but this seems odd to me. Maybe they didn't center it correctly?

In my other blog, "The Highly Caffeinated Genealogist", I have discussed why I chose these two plots of gravestones to work on. Rather than repeat that here, where all the posts about the stones will appear, this is the link to that post from last Sunday.

Surnames in this project are Brown, Denison, Avery, Schoonover, Billings, Fellows and Burrows.

Tuesday, January 31, 2017

Tombstone Tuesday: Funeral and Burial Notices

The Day. New London, CT, Evening Day, page 17, 2 Feb 1951. (image 9)
Funeral and Burial Notices

While using the Google News Archive, I stumbled across this short obituary for my maternal uncle in the newspaper archives of "The Day" a newspaper that covers New London county in Connecticut. I was very surprised because I couldn't find much in the Columbus, Ohio area where the death record of my uncle was found.

Master Sargent Evans Stewart, Jr. (previous blog post)

Knowing that he is buried with his parents (my grandparents) in Mystic (Stonington, CT), I see that this mention of the actual burial gives me a date when the burial took place. the news article does contain errors but it also contains information NOT found in my family Bible. 

It confirms the name of his wife, but doesn't mention that he was my mother's brother. As I suspected, my grandparents were of the Episcopal faith.  My parents were married in an Episcopal Church in 1946 in Cranston, RI and why my mother wanted to join an Episcopal Church.

Sentimental Sunday: Seeing God (previous blog post)

It was when I began to read the list the pall bearers, I see that my father, Thomas Broadfoot's name is written incorrectly but it is certainly him. James Aiken worked with my grandfather and I remember him. Owen Miner was my grandfather's first cousin and lived near to the area but in Groton, CT.

But, who was J. Alpheus Schoonover? ( it turns out that he is the husband of my 2nd cousin 2x removed) 

Tuesday, January 24, 2017

Tombstone Tuesday: The Rest of the Plot

Photos by Brian Zoldak, 2016, used with permission
(These headstones are much more clearly photographed than mine.)

The Rest of the Plot

One of the challenges that I have faced when teaching others to photograph, research and record gravestones is to examine the headstones and monuments around the one or two you went to find. Every book says to do this but in the moment, it is a hard thing to do.

Plots are often purchased by one person who wanted to set off a section for his or her family. A problem can occur with the unexpected death of a younger family member, a divorce, or a difference in religion. 

My maternal grandfather purchased four plots. One for himself and his wife (as you saw last week) and two more for his son and daughter. 

As you can see, my grandfather's brother, Dudley W. Stewart (Jr.), my grandfather's brother, died first in 1943. Yes, he was married but his widow chose to be buried with her family in another location and it took me a long time to find that out. They were not divorced. She was native to the town she lived in and she did not remarry. I don't think my grandparents cared where she went after great uncle Dudley died.

My grandmother told me that when Dudley died, my grandfather purchased 4 granite headstones and had three set here. My grandparents headstones, had their birth year and the death year was blank. When my grandparents son died (an awful suicide in 1951), they added the inscription on the fourth headstone. My mother, was now left out. But, she married my father in 1946 so they planned to be buried in another cemetery and bought their own stone. So, that solved the problem.

It was intended that the people buried here (behind the big monument), have their information be carved on the reverse side This back side of the monument already had some carving but those names and dates are very hard to read because the stone was not polished in the same way as the front and sides.  It took several trips and many photographs taken at different times of day and the use of a mirror to take clear photos. Notice that my uncle's dates are not full dates. The circumstances of his death and the fact that my grandparents had to bury a their son, stopped them from making a consistent decision. 

My grandmother told me, the worst moment of her life was realizing she had to bury her child even if he was an adult. Parents should not outlive their children.

As a result, she made me promise not to put anymore names and dates on the big stone. "Too much money", she said. New England people don't like big public displays of heartache.



Next week: finding out about my uncle's suicide and burial.

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Tombstone Tuesday: Maternal Grandparents

Photos by Brian Zoldak, 2016, used with permission
(These headstones are much more clearly photographed than mine.)


My Maternal Grandparents
(Elm Grove Cemetery History)
Blog post #1


When I decided to photograph the gravestones of my ancestral families, I didn't realize that I was going to get so involved with it. I didn't have a plan at all! I just wanted to get them recorded and to leave behind, in my records, the name of the cemetery and where "my people" were buried. I started the day I buried my mother, who was the daughter of these people in this photograph. It was a focused, purposeful start to my "modern genealogy". That was in 2002.

Evans and Jo were my rock. As you can see, these are their headstones. It is a long time between 1955 and 1992. When we buried my grandmother's ashes, we had to wait until spring. I didn't know that cemeteries did that. My husband, my parents and my daughter were with me the day we buried her ashes. It was just a graveside service. The headstones were already in place and my mother had contacted a carver to add the date. My mother was not in the mood to answer questions, so I started a list in the car on the way home. 

Prior to this, it was both of my families, paternal and maternal, to go to the cemetery near or on Memorial Day. My grandmother was very good at explaining that my grandfather's parents and grandparents were buried there too. She told me that Grandpa was buried in a casket but she wanted to be cremated. Under no circumstances was I to waste money putting their names on the back side of the big Denison monument. "Yes, grandma", I said, obediently. 

Later, when I took photographs of all of the people in that section, I found out why she said that and that will be part of my next blog post.

This is the "Denison" section of Elm Grove Cemetery, Mystic, New London, Connecticut.
Photos by Brian Zoldak, 2016, used with permission

Saturday, October 01, 2016

About Collaboration


Friday, September 30, 2016

Memorial Bench and Farewell

Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2014, used with permisson

Memorial Bench

As I write this final blog post for this cemetery, I realize that this dedication bench is part of the very first cemetery I blogged about in 2006. So, the circle is complete. I think Warren is buried there because there is a headstone. Warren was my cousin and was born in 1901 and died in 1991. His wife is listed as Mabel BOWMAN and they were married in 1930. I don't know if this woman named Margaret is a second wife or not.

While researching this bench, I have discovered that there is a lot of Fish information that I didn't have, listed in the second volume of the Gallup (2009) Genealogy, so I can't put away the books as yet.

This project would not have been possible without the expert photographs of Brian Zoldak and his own research on them. With over 100 gravestones in this cemetery, I knew it would take him a lot of time to photograph them (to his satisfaction) and a couple of years for me to write the blog posts. Thank you Brian.

I will be taking some time off from this blog but I will be back. Fred Burdick has allowed me to use the photos on his CDs and I'd like to put those photos in this blog. First, I must move them because they are on CD and this may be the last computer I own with a CD/DVD drive. I have a USB based portable drive but I don't know how long that will last. Nothing lasts forever.

Farewell to the Gallup Cemetery and a peaceful rest to those who are buried here. I have enjoyed visiting with them and learning about their lives. Thanks for sticking with me, dear readers, and I will write more very soon.

Nathan and Kathleen Pearson

Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2014, used with permission
President and Host of the Gallup Family Association

Nathan Williams PEARSON was born 26 Nov 1911 and died 11 Jun 2002 was married to Kathleen Patricia McMURTY who was born 10 Feb 1917 and died 14 Mar 2012 were married 9 April 1947. He was the President of the Gallup Family Association and hosted, at the house next to this cemetery, the annual reunion. 

As you can see there is a beautiful granite monument in the cemetery dedicated to him. Their individual gravestones are here and match each other and are simple in design and fit in with the style of this cemetery. They rest together at the end of Row 6 in a shady spot.

I have been to two family reunions at this location and I have walked through this cemetery many times. At the beginning of this project, I emphasized that this is a cemetery on private land. It is well maintained by the Gallup Family Association. 

Joseph, Edward, Emily and Lucy Gallup

Photos by Brian Zoldak, 2014, used with permission (gravestones 97-100)
Children of Deac. Avery Gallup and his wife Mary Haley


Crop of Hale Cemetery Index for family of Avery Gallup
These are the children of Deac. (Capt.) Avery Gallup and his second wife Mary. I cropped this page from the Hale Cemetery Records to make sure that I could read the dates and to check the Gallup (2009) Genealogy to see that they were transcribed correctly.

I made this collage because I think this is a good example of the change in style of gravestones for one family. Lucy (the gravestone on the right) lived a long life as a single woman and can be found in the 1920 census living in Providence, RI with her niece, Mary, schoolteacher, who was the daughter of Giles Albert Williams and Mary Gallup, granddaughter of Giles Williams and Fanny Maria Gallup. 

Emily's gravestone is the one with the lovely saying, "Always lovely and all loved her", lived until she was 28. Edward, the third gravestone from the left, lived until the age of 20. 

Joseph's gravestone can no longer be read, but it must have been readable in the 1930s during the Hale Cemetery Transcription project and it says he died at age 7 months and 23 days. The fact that his gravestone is as large as the others (and not a small infant gravestone) shows that this was a prominent family and wanted all their gravestones to be the same size.

This family has other children that survived and are not buried here namely Anna Gallup who married Maj. Jacob Lorenzo Gallup, and Simeon Gallup who married Lillie Taylor.

From Avery Gallup's first marriage, William Avery Gallup and his sister, Elizabeth Gallup lived to adulthood and married. There may be living descendants of the adult children that survived.

Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Capt Avery Gallup and wives

Captain Avery GALLUP and wives Melinda and Mary
(his gravestone reads Deacon)


Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2014, used with permission
Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2104, used with permssion
Photo by Brian Zoldak, 2014, used with permission
Capt. Avery Gallup (#1315 p. 315) is buried with his two wives and several children in  the Gallup Cemetery in Ledyard, New London, CT.  Capt. Avery, (Isaac, Benadam, Benadam, Benadam, John, John) was my first cousin, 6 times removed.  

His first wife Melenda (Melinda) BAILEY died young, at 26 years old, on 12 Oct 1828, leaving him with two small children to raise. It is not known who her parents were (her father is listed as "R") as her marriage record in the Barbour Index just indicates she was "of Groton" at the time of her marriage in 1822 to Capt. Avery Gallup. Her gravestone is carved with a weeping willow and he mourned for her. She died in 1828 not in 1830 was it states in the Gallup (2009) genealogy. She was born sometime in 1802-1803 as calculated by her death date. Normally, I don't use this method of finding a birth date.

He married 2nd,  Mary HALEY on 13 Mar 1834, whose parents were Stephen Haley, Sr. and Lucy Gallup (#1308, p. 316) which means he married his cousin as her mother Lucy (Benadam, Benadam, Benadam, Benadam, John, John) was a Gallup descendant. Lucy was my 5th great aunt.  

He was a blacksmith and a farmer and Deacon of the First Baptist Church of Groton (for 22 years). His second wife, Mary, outlived him by many years and died in 1891. 

Capt. Avery Gallup was born on 6 Apr 1796 and died on 4 Nov 1864.  The placement of this family in Row 6, so far back in the cemetery, and not with the gravestones of an earlier period, may be because this family needed a whole row for those that died.