For Christmas 2001, we gave my mother a calendar of lighthouses. After she died in June 2002, I had the awful task of sorting through drawers and selling the furniture that we did not take.
In with a drawer with the phone book I found the calendar that we gave her the year before with this lovely message on it. I ripped this page off and kept it.
It says she appreciated the effort we made to make a nice Christmas for her that year. I really think she felt that she had had enough of her life but lived another year. I had to shut off the machines, as she had directed, so this made me feel better about doing so.
Christmas can be a sad time of year for many people. If so, should be remembered as part of the balance of life.